But even if those hidden rules could be systematically mined, I'm not sure I'd wish upon anyone the curse of getting what one wishes.

Eliot:

Either you had no purpose
Or the purpose is beyond the end you figured
And is altered in fulfilment.

and of course

And last, the rending pain of re-enactment
Of all that you have done, and been; the shame
Of motives late revealed, and the awareness
Of things ill done and done to others’ harm
Which once you took for exercise of virtue.
Then fools’ approval stings, and honour stains.