Zack_M_Davis comments on Polyhacking - Less Wrong

75 Post author: Alicorn 28 August 2011 08:35AM

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Comment author: Zack_M_Davis 08 June 2012 05:13:32AM 10 points [-]

(Your argument assumes that someone likes being second-best, which I still contend is pretty bizarre.) [...] someone who is "secondary" to one person can be "primary" to another. [...] This means that it can be potentially fair, but it's still incumbent upon the polyamorist to ensure that [...] no one is being taken advantage of.

(Data point: I am one of Alicorn's former secondaries and was not in any other romantic relationships at the time, and I can testify that I did not feel exploited. I have no particular reason to care about what you consider bizarre or unfair.)