In short, I find this trope to be a fallacy. I'd expect an advanced civilisation to have a greater, not lesser, understanding of how intelligence works, its limitations, and failure modes in general.
Have you never looked at something someone does and asked yourself, "How can they be so stupid?"
It's not as though you literally cannot conceive of such limitations; just that you cannot empathize with them.
It's anthropomorphism to assume that it would occur to advanced aliens to try to understand us empathetically rather than causally/technically in the first place, though.
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