MixedNuts comments on Rational Communication - Less Wrong

23 Post author: Swimmer963 10 September 2011 02:30AM

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Comment author: MixedNuts 12 September 2011 08:43:02AM 7 points [-]

“Obviously this is important to you. Do you think you can tell me more about it?” No way to take offense from that.''

I would expect offense. Something along the lines of "I came here to talk to you, not be spoon-fed lines from a communication textbook".

Comment author: handoflixue 14 September 2011 11:57:19PM 4 points [-]

I've found most people will pick up on stilted/unnatural lines, yes. I've also found that most people will, after some practice, turn the lines in a communications textbook in to something that sounds natural for them. It's the sentiment, not the exact wording, that matters. And I've found that the sentiment of "You seem to care about this, so I'm interested in listening" goes over very well if you can make it sound genuine.