Mike Darwin on Steve Jobs's hypocritical stance towards death

25 Post author: Synaptic 08 October 2011 03:32AM

First, Darwin describes Jobs's (far mode) stance towards death: 

As Aschwin points out Jobs is on record (his Stanford Commencement Speech) as saying that death is the best thing that ever happened to life - that it clears out the old, and makes way for the new.

But these are Jobs's actual (near mode) actions regarding his own death: 

The really big story, so far largely unexploited by the media, is that Jobs got a liver transplant and got it here in the US. This just does not happen in patients with his Dx and prognosis - not since Mickey Mantle, anyway. And his outcome was exactly as was predicted. This infuriates those 'in the know' in the transplant community, because you have only to look to guys like Jim Neighbors, Larry Hagman, or even Larry Kramer who got livers many years or even a decade or two ago, and who continue not only to survive, but to do well. To put the liver of a 25-year old into a ~54 year old man with metastatic neuroendocrine pancreatic cancer violates the established protocols of just about every transplant center in the US.

The conclusion:

I find it more than a little hypocritical that Jobs, who spoke so glowingly of the utility of death for others, used every bit of medical technology AND his considerable wealth and influence, to postpone it for it himself, including the expedient of taking a GIFT, given with the sole intention of its being used to provide genuinely life saving benefit (not a futile exercise in medical care) and squandering it on a doomed attempt to save his own life. If you have the temerity to stand before the entire population of this planet and proclaim the goodness of death, then you should have the balls to accept it - especially when your own warped, erroneous and IRRATIONAL decision making was the proximate cause of your own dying. Instead, Jobs chose to grasp at straws, take a gift from a dead man and his family, given in good faith, and squander it on his own lust for more of the very thing (life) that he has publicly proclaimed it is a second best to "Death (which) is very likely the single best invention of life." 

 

Comments (78)

Comment author: byrnema 09 October 2011 02:11:02AM *  7 points [-]

If we're going to dissect Job's comments and measure how hyprocritical he is from a handful of sentences at a commencement, we should at least once see the full context:

"This was the closest I've been to facing death, and I hope it's the closest I get for a few more decades. Having lived through it, I can now say this to you with a bit more certainty than when death was a useful but purely intellectual concept:

"No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don't want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life's change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you, but someday not too long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it is quite true.

"Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary."

He was just making the standard 'carpe diem' speech, and his segue was his near brush with death (the claim being he now had the experience to make this comment with more weight.) He already said he didn't want to die and he explicitly said he hoped for a few more decades.

I think what he said was kind of dumb -- I'm sure he would choose to live forever if he perceived the immediate chance, and wouldn't have begrudged our immortality either, so he must have meant something else. (Indeed, it's a very 'far' and removed perspective to think of species and generations of humans replacing one another like generations of computers.)

I don't know what Steve Jobs meant, exactly, or what his motives were for making that statement. But I don't think he was claiming he was nonchalant about his own mortality.

Comment author: RichardKennaway 08 October 2011 06:42:07AM 12 points [-]

So, did he get himself frozen anyway? Apart from his professed attitude to death, he did also say in that commencement address that nobody wants to die, not even the ones who think they'll go to heaven. He would have been an ideal candidate: dying in his prime of a non-brain-threatening disease, plenty of advance warning that the day was coming, and enough money to pay for the best possible care.

Comment author: shminux 09 October 2011 12:50:43AM 6 points [-]

If he did and made it public, that would be a re[al ]birth of cryonics. It would also be totally his style: steal an idea and perfect it to the degree that everyone would want it.

Comment author: scientism 08 October 2011 05:05:33PM 4 points [-]

Jobs's statement came in the part of the speech where he talks about how knowledge of the possibility of death can motivate a life well lived. He does say about dying that "that is how it should be" but he never says that you should accept death, he says that knowing you're going to die someday is a great motivator. Presumably it motivated him to get a liver transplant. I don't really see any hypocrisy.

Comment author: pedanterrific 08 October 2011 04:18:27AM *  15 points [-]

Relevant. (Summary: Jobs' type of cancer is relatively treatable when caught early, which it was. Unfortunately, he delayed 'conventional' treatment for nine months in favor of an 'alternative' diet.)

Not sure what moral to take from this. Fear of mortality makes people do crazy things, perhaps?

Comment author: Xachariah 08 October 2011 12:43:57PM *  24 points [-]

When people ask, "What's the harm in believing in Astrology/Homeopathy/Alternative Medicine/etc" or "What good is rationality", remember this as an example. Steve Jobs died because he did not make rational choices and because he trusted in sham science.

It's easy for people to brush off numbers from some websites by saying they're inaccurate. But a single example can stick in their minds. I hope that his death can serve to ward others away from such dangerous practices. I hope that the next time someone thinks about abandoning rational decisionmaking, especially in the health field, they remember this lesson paid for in blood: One of the richest and most beloved CEOs in the world died because of alternative medicine. The same thing can easily happen to you if you do the same.

I hope his memory can still contribute to the world by sparing others of the same fate.

Comment author: James_Miller 08 October 2011 05:02:22PM 1 point [-]

Are you sure this is right? Hasn't Robin Hanson taught us that we can't always trust the medical profession's claims about how useful the medical profession is.

Comment author: lessdazed 08 October 2011 07:52:57PM *  11 points [-]

we can't always trust the medical profession's claims about how useful the medical profession is.

One thing that's much more trustworthy than average is the claim: "Early detected disease X? We can totally fix that!" It's a falsifiable claim.

Claims that are deeply tied to statistics, statistical significance, fuzzy definitions, subtle effects, or other things are more likely to be the wrong ones.

Comment author: MartinB 08 October 2011 07:29:37AM 5 points [-]

Brightness in one area does not imply bright action in another.

Comment author: James_Miller 08 October 2011 05:03:39PM *  2 points [-]

The importance of IQ, a single measure of intelligence, contradicts your statement.

Comment author: Oscar_Cunningham 08 October 2011 05:40:02PM 8 points [-]

Intelligence in one area is evidence of intelligence in another, but not infinite evidence. Problem dissolved.

Comment author: James_Miller 08 October 2011 06:21:27PM *  0 points [-]

You are defining imply such that X implies Y means that if X happens Y always occurs, whereas I'm defining imply to mean that if X happens Y is more likely to occur than if X didn't happen. In this context my interpretation is better since yours renders MartinB's statement trivially true and therefore vacuous.

Edit: I misinterpreted Oscar's comment.

Comment author: Oscar_Cunningham 08 October 2011 06:32:37PM 1 point [-]

That's exactly what I intended to mean (my comment wasn't intended to support MartinB over you).

Comment author: MartinB 09 October 2011 12:09:19AM 1 point [-]

I don't think I actually understand your comment correctly. Could you elaborate? There are many intelligent people who do great work in one area while failing in another. A successful entrepreneur who is into alternative medicine is not particularly surprising.

Comment author: James_Miller 09 October 2011 01:39:14AM *  3 points [-]

IQ, a single number, is important because people who are smart in one area tend on average to be smart in others. Jobs was extremely good at making decisions based on an intelligent analysis of complex information so I would expect him to be at least above average at making personal medical decisions.

Jobs has been described as

a polymath, a skilled motivator, a decisive judge...and a gifted strategist.

We should be shocked if he did an incompetent job of choosing his own cancer treatment.

Comment author: MartinB 09 October 2011 11:06:39AM 0 points [-]

Are you assuming a linear relation between IQ and correct decision making? In medical issues a person of normal IQ could just go with whatever the doctor says, while a high IQ person might know enough to know about all the troubles with medical services, yet be not able to distinguish a case where the doctors way is the absolutely best option there is.

The article claims he choose wrongly, and we should be sad about that. But not necessarily surprised.

Comment author: wedrifid 09 October 2011 02:55:50PM 1 point [-]

Are you assuming a linear relation between IQ and correct decision making?

What would that assumption even mean?

Comment author: MartinB 08 October 2011 07:32:33AM 6 points [-]

The common understanding is that death is a great thing, after a life well lived, not during. (with the unmentioned implication that dementia had set in years ago and no more production is being done.)

One might however argue that Steve created more utilons with the time he got from the transplant than any other receiver would have.

Comment author: loup-vaillant 10 October 2011 02:33:43PM *  2 points [-]

Well, some probably think that Steve destroyed utilions with his additional time. Apple's latest products are very slick, but at the same time very locked. The IPad for instance overcomes technophobia by keeping geeks out. I'm not sure whether this is a net gain or a net loss. (Disclaimer: I politicaly support free software.)

Comment author: Tripitaka 08 October 2011 10:29:05PM *  1 point [-]

I wonder on what scale such utilons would be measured; Apple is one of the least philantropic firms in the US!

Source: http://money.cnn.com/2008/03/02/news/companies/elkind_jobs.fortune/index4.htm

Important parts roughly excerpted:

"After Steve Jobs returned to the ruins of his life's work, he froze the charity-programs of Apple; fourteen years later, they stay frozen altough Apple is the most valuable firm of the world, with the exception of 100k$. In comparison, other major technology firms spend tens of millions per year!"

Major edit: found an english source, replaced the german source.

Comment author: MartinB 09 October 2011 12:04:03AM 3 points [-]

I did not mean charity, but Utilons. As in: designing awesome products for their customers.

The future now will show how much of Apples success is related to Jobs, and how much he succeeded in transmitting his creativity (or however that what he does is called) to the next generation of Apple leaders.

Comment author: wedrifid 09 October 2011 12:12:31AM 1 point [-]

I wonder on what scale such utilons would be measured; Apple is one of the least philantropic firms in the US!

The scale of roundwhitenobuttons.

Comment author: MileyCyrus 08 October 2011 03:56:17AM 7 points [-]

Liver stealer. Handicapped-space parker. Charity non-donor.

I like Bill Gates better.

Comment author: PhilGoetz 08 October 2011 04:41:17AM 3 points [-]

When Steve Jobs was "friends" with Steve Wozniak, he accepted a contract for some computer engineering work for $2000, then payed Woz $500 to do the work and never told him he was pocketing $1500.

Comment author: James_Miller 08 October 2011 05:54:55AM 14 points [-]

So if Woz had been willing to do the contract for $200 but didn't tell this to Jobs, would this make Woz a bad person?

Comment author: PhilGoetz 08 October 2011 03:07:52PM *  13 points [-]

Would you stay friends with someone who did to you what I just said Jobs did to Woz? Would you not be angry about it at all?

Here's the correct story, from Wikipedia, with 5 citations:

Alcorn assigned Steve Jobs to design a prototype. Jobs was offered US$750, with an extra $100 each time a chip was eliminated from the prospected design. Jobs promised to complete a prototype within four days.

Jobs noticed his friend Steve Wozniak—employee of Hewlett-Packard—was capable of producing designs with a small number of chips, and invited him to work on the hardware design with the prospect of splitting the $750 wage. Wozniak had no sketches and instead interpreted the game from its description. To save parts, he had "tricky little designs" difficult to understand for most engineers. Near the end of development, Wozniak considered moving the high score to the screen's top, but Jobs claimed Bushnell wanted it at the bottom; Wozniak was unaware of any truth to his claims. The original deadline was met after Wozniak did not sleep for four days straight. In the end 50 chips were removed from Jobs' original design. This equated to a US$5,000 bonus, which Jobs kept secret from Wozniak, instead only paying him $375.

Comment author: James_Miller 08 October 2011 04:00:03PM 0 points [-]

If my friend lied or deceived me then I would be angry. Otherwise, I think my friend would have reasonably interpreted my failure to ask how much he would make from the deal as a signal that I wasn't concerned about how much he would be profiting from the transaction. Often finding work is significantly harder than accomplishing it, and knowing this would have caused me to not be upset with my friend. When I did find out what the friend did I would probably think to myself that this is a guy really good at making money and I definitely want to keep associating with him.

Comment author: Vaniver 08 October 2011 10:16:21PM 4 points [-]

Are you sure your judgment isn't being altered by having the example of Steve Jobs in mind? If someone tricks you out of a substantial sum of money, it's a bit of a stretch to presume it's likely they have world-changing taste. Typically, people willing to trick their friends are not people you want to be friends with, and Jobs is the exception rather than the rule. His ability to make money off you does not mean you'll get a reasonable share of that money.

Comment author: James_Miller 08 October 2011 11:24:56PM 0 points [-]

Are you sure your judgment isn't being altered by having the example of Steve Jobs in mind

Fair point, but I don't think so. Let's say that I'm Woz and had been willing to do the work for $200, and HP ended up paying $5750. This meant Jobs found someone willing to pay 28 times as much for my time as I considered it to be worth. Even if I developed a hatred towards him I would hide it.

Comment author: PhilGoetz 10 October 2011 10:39:05PM 3 points [-]

I think you're being a one-step rationalist, looking one step ahead in game theory. A 2-stepper realizes that, if he signals to his friends that they won't be his friends anymore if they fail to split windfalls with him, his friends may split windfalls with him.

Comment author: James_Miller 10 October 2011 11:21:54PM 0 points [-]

Or they will just make deals with non-friends and leave me with nothing.

Comment author: FAWS 08 October 2011 03:43:35PM 1 point [-]

I guess these comments are being voted down because of the cultural norm not to speak ill of the dead. Since the dead themselves have no feelings that could be hurt any more the purpose seems to be to avoid hurting the feelings of the grieving? Is this the application of the norm here and in this context an example of a lost purpose (but harmless?) or still useful/reasonable?

Comment author: printing-spoon 08 October 2011 05:01:05AM 1 point [-]

I heard 5000$ and 375$...

Comment author: MartinB 08 October 2011 07:30:39AM 1 point [-]

It is mentioned in iWoz, the autobiography of Wozniak. I can look it up.

Comment author: Vladimir_Nesov 08 October 2011 01:07:04PM 1 point [-]

Just think how hypocritical it is to err on record, but then go on benefiting from correct ideas like nothing happened. Thank heavens we can rely on honest men to be wrong every time.

Comment author: Hyena 08 October 2011 12:23:06PM 1 point [-]

Unless, you know, as Jobs got older and became less of a youth-obsessed person, his "utility of death" view was abandoned.

Comment author: gwern 08 October 2011 01:58:19PM 9 points [-]

Gosh, he must have grown up a lot in those 6 years since his 2005 commencement speech.

Comment author: Hyena 08 October 2011 03:30:16PM *  2 points [-]

He would have been 50 that year, right? Isn't that usually a psychologically important age for most people which definitively separates the young and old?

Comment author: Oscar_Cunningham 08 October 2011 05:42:48PM 8 points [-]

Did you know that the speech was only 6 years ago when you made your original comment?

Comment author: Hyena 08 October 2011 06:21:12PM *  0 points [-]

I've been observing my parents' rollover to 50 the last two years. As it happens, I'm also visiting them at this moment, so this is a salient dynamic to me. My stepfather has gone from hard ass to laid back from 50 to 52. My mother, looking at 50 is rearranging her priorities extensively. They've sold houses, left jobs, planned extensive vacations and so on. Priorities have shifted massively as have more general perceptions of life and success; both emphasize their age more and seem to use it as a social enabler to actually take on the early retirement they could have done years ago. They both point to their age, particularly the leading five when explaining themselves.

It is like a bit has flipped and this has been the background process in my mind since Wednesday when I flew out for a funeral. (Naturally, I could go on, given the family reunion status of funerals, the mix of ages and particularly the binary feeling of change you sometimes get when meeting people again after years.) So while this thought may be furthest from your mind meditations on "becoming an old man" have been a major component of mine.

Comment author: Oscar_Cunningham 08 October 2011 06:27:49PM 4 points [-]

You didn't answer my question.

Comment author: Hyena 08 October 2011 06:32:02PM 2 points [-]

Yes.

Comment author: Jack 08 October 2011 08:09:34AM 1 point [-]

How long ago did Jobs receive the liver transplant?

Comment author: see 08 October 2011 08:55:22AM 6 points [-]

April 2009. So he got less than two and a half years out of it.

Comment author: Jack 08 October 2011 09:05:03AM 4 points [-]

Quite shocking. I'm surprised it hasn't gotten news coverage, especially given this whole 99% thing.

Comment author: gwern 08 October 2011 01:57:16PM *  2 points [-]

It's forgotten now, although the liver thing got a fair amount of coverage (I certainly remember reading about how he gamed the system to get a liver) at the time. And now that there is renewed interest, it would be uncharitable and mean-spirited to speak ill of the dead.

Comment author: lessdazed 08 October 2011 07:55:13PM 10 points [-]

it would be uncharitable and mean-spirited to speak ill of the dead.

Why?

Comment author: Nisan 10 October 2011 06:27:34AM 5 points [-]

It's a tradition, like being nice to people on Christmas. There's no reason for Christmas in particular to be a day on which you're extra nice. But people aren't nice enough in general, so the tradition is a step in the right direction; I'm not going to criticize it.

Comment author: Nornagest 08 October 2011 09:09:41PM 3 points [-]

Because it feels like adding insult to injury for those grieving, I'd imagine.

Comment author: jhuffman 11 October 2011 07:58:29PM 0 points [-]

I wonder how the liver donor's family feels.

Comment author: Kingreaper 08 October 2011 09:34:14PM 6 points [-]

I'll agree with Nornagest on the insult to injury part, but there's also a second part:

If you talk about someone's failings after they die, but not before, then you seem to have been waiting until they were no longer available to defend themselves.

IOW: it seems cowardly, and dishonest. Because if they were still around, they might be able to dismiss your allegations.

Comment author: lessdazed 08 October 2011 09:39:50PM 5 points [-]

Can I mitigate people's negative feelings by mostly offering cites of old criticisms?

Comment author: Kingreaper 08 October 2011 09:44:11PM 4 points [-]

That should help, but I'm not certain how much. The problem is that whatever the reason for the rule originally, it's now ingrained as a moral absolute in some people's minds.

Comment author: gwern 08 October 2011 08:40:43PM 2 points [-]

Dunno; ask the normals. But I've read it so many times that they must have some such attitude.

Comment author: MarkusRamikin 08 October 2011 09:27:59PM *  2 points [-]

Normals have a problem there. When a death is fresh and on everyone's minds, you're supposed to be nice rather than care about facts, truth and accuracy. But by the time you're allowed to care about those things, nobody is paying attention any more.

Comment author: Craig_Heldreth 10 October 2011 01:04:21PM 0 points [-]

It is an anachronism from prehistory when the dead were presumed spirits, capable of hearing you speaking ill of them, and retaining power to injure you. The motivation is primal fear.

Comment author: Craig_Heldreth 08 October 2011 05:56:26PM 1 point [-]

In my view the liver thing has gotten nowhere near the amount of coverage Mickey Mantle's did. And Mickey was just as widely respected and even hero-worshiped as Jobs. To me these are closely comparable cases. My memory may be distorted, but it seems to me that there is some zeitgeist shift.

I have a friend who cannot get a kidney transplant. His kidneys are failing and he is on dialysis and without a transplant his life expectancy is less than five years, but he is considered a poor prospect and can't get his name on a waiting list.

What Stallman said was uncharitable and mean-spirited. This I am not so sure. Livers are more precious than kidneys and to waste one is a really huge deal. (I do not know enough about medicine in general or Jobs case in particular to know about the accuracy of that wastage characterization.)

Comment author: wedrifid 09 October 2011 12:18:47AM 1 point [-]

In my view the liver thing has gotten nowhere near the amount of coverage Mickey Mantle's did. And Mickey was just as widely respected and even hero-worshiped as Jobs.

Never heard of him. I heard of Jobs, like, several hundred times.

Comment author: gwern 09 October 2011 01:44:49AM *  2 points [-]

I think it's a generational thing. When I mentioned it to my parents, they knew instantly what I was asking about and even knew the details of the Mantle thing. (Neither one is a pro sports fan, and their main familiarity is with football, not baseball.)

Comment author: wedrifid 09 October 2011 01:55:42AM 2 points [-]

Oh, so he is a US baseball player. We get more iPods over here than we do baseball. That explains it. Worldwide relevance.

Comment author: wedrifid 09 October 2011 02:18:07AM 0 points [-]

And now that there is renewed interest, it would be uncharitable and mean-spirited to speak ill of the dead.

:s/be/be perceived as/

Comment author: Normal_Anomaly 09 October 2011 02:24:29AM *  0 points [-]

Good point, but I think your markup is broken.

EDIT: Never mind!

Comment author: wedrifid 09 October 2011 02:28:24AM 0 points [-]

Seems to be working as I intended it. Do you perhaps suggest a different form of ad hoc substitution syntax?

Comment author: Normal_Anomaly 09 October 2011 02:30:25AM *  3 points [-]

Okay, it clicked for me on second reading. I would have used:

And now that there is renewed interest, it would be perceived as uncharitable and mean-spirited to speak ill of the dead.

FTFY

but your way works too.

Comment author: wedrifid 09 October 2011 02:39:11AM 0 points [-]

That works too. Bold or italic? Hmm... I may try bold next time. It stands out more as an insertion while italic may be better for 'emphasis added' situations.

Comment author: byrnema 10 October 2011 10:43:08PM 0 points [-]

When I brought up the issue of the liver at Sunday dinner, my mother-in-law said exactly, 'Yeah, he was able to extend his life for another two and a half years'.

Just interesting, the different perspectives of the same fact.