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If by this you mean "Alice would explode at being called a liar," then I agree.
Communication is the transfer of information from speaker to listener: while I cannot reduce intent to the explicit meaning of words in this case I can reduce actual transfer to the explicit meaning of words (and a bit extra). The man in question is likely to be literal-minded, otherwise he would have picked up on the hint. (Men tend to be more literal than women.) Alice is the one who has an easier path to avoid communication breakdown.
They are in a fight about when they talk about it, and she is the one that elevated it from discussion to fight.
This habit is not conducive to relationship success.
No, he means that Alice fails to satisfy the literal definition of lying, in that she is not intending to deceive. That is, she does not mean for the man to conclude that there is in fact nothing wrong.
Emphasis mine. My dictionary contains four instances of "lie" as a noun; #3 applies, and #1 (the one you're using) applies under the interpretation espoused by the person whose comment I was responding to (i.e. TimS suggested she wants him to conclude, for now at least, that nothing is wrong).
If you have read TimS correctly, then we agree that she was lying. But your reading of TimS doesn't look very plausible to me. Alice's not wanting to talk now doesn't convey the message that nothing is wrong now.
I think what TimS probably meant was that she wants him to act, at least for now, as if nothing is wrong. But I probably shouldn't have jumped on you for criticizing him (I was not focused enough on the context, ironically).