Good point, if not totally right.

In general, you can have anything in your utility function you please. I could care about the number of ducks in the pond near where I grew up, even though I can't see it. And when I say caring about the number of ducks in the pond, I don't just mean my perception of it - I don't want to maximize how many ducks I think are in the pond, or I would just drug myself. However, you're right that when calculating an "expected utility," that is, your best guess at the time, you don't usually have perfect information about other peoples' utility functions, just like I wouldn't have perfect information about the number of ducks in the pond, and so would have to use an estimate.

The reason it worked without this distinction in Stuart's articles on the sleeping beauty problem was because the "other people" were actually copies of Sleeping Beauty, so you knew that their utility functions were the same.