This is where meetups could be useful. Roux and I have to depend on being as specific as possible. However, at a meetup, you could poll the group for their honest opinion.
Just an outline of what I'm pondering:
It would be like a silent auction, where everyone submits a 'what do you think about me' question.
A question is drawn, the group answers the question, everyone is embarrassed, next question.
Sounds like fun, actually. It seems a bit like 'truth or dare.'
Most people need feedback in many areas. Most people can give feedback in many areas. But for some reason I don't see a lot of actual honest feedback happening, neither in my personal life, nor at work, nor here on LW. This looks like some sort of market failure, or perhaps a bug in society.
Would we benefit from a norm that encouraged asking for feedback or critique in any area, perhaps using open threads set up specially for that? I think we would. What do you think?