It's hard for me to express why, but this posts bothers me a lot. I'm a married, straight male. I'm also a feminist, and I think that post-modern thought on morality is generally quite insightful. But because I'm not LGBT the post seems to say that I have nothing interesting to say,
It sounds like your question has to do with theoretical debate of activists for minority groups: should the minority population accommodate and work around majority prejudice (the position of Booker T. Washington) or should the minority population demand integration and an end to prejudice (the position of W.E.B. Du Bois).
If instead, you are asking about today's on-the-ground issues with the political alliance known as LGBT activism, I have less knowledge. But if that's what you're asking about, ask about THAT. Don't make generalizing references to "[a] community [that] seems to be prone to taking unnecessary offense, and believing in subjectivism and silly things like that." It is neither necessary nor sufficient to talk to a lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender person in order to find out the political realities of LGBT activism.
If instead, you are asking about today's on-the-ground issues with the political alliance known as LGBT activism, I have less knowledge.
I find that a unlikely interpretation. Politics is a mostly respected taboo here. Only in very rare circumstances where the benefit to the refinement of the art outweighs the mind-killing caused by the political analysis or example is politics directly discussed.
When _ozymandias posted zir introduction post a few days ago, I went off and binged on blogs from the trans/men's rights/feminist spectrum. I found them absolutely fascinating. I've always had lots of sympathy for transgendered people in particular, and care a lot about all those issues. I don't know what I think of making up new pronouns, and I get a bit offput by trying to remember the non-offensive terms for everything. For example, I'm sure that LGBT as a term offends people, and I agree that lumping the T with the LGB is a bit dubious, but I don't know any other equivalent term that everyone will understand. I'm going to keep using it.
However, I don't currently know any LGBT people who I can talk to about these things. In particular, the whole LGBT and feminist and so on community seems to be prone to taking unnecessary offense, and believing in subjectivism and silly things like that.
So I'd really like to talk with some LWers who have experience with these things. I've got questions that I think would be better answered by an IM conversation than by just reading blogs.
If anyone wants to have an IM conversation about this, please message me. I'd be very grateful.
EDIT: Wow, that's an amazing response. Thank you all for your kind offers. I'll talk to as many of you as I can get around to.