'Ha ha! Love and friendship were actually in the other two!'"

This concern is not-abstract and very personal for me. As I've said around here before, I often find myself exhibiting borderline-sociopathic thinking in many situations, but the arrangement of empathy and ethical inhibitions in my brain, though off-kilter in many ways*, drives me to take even abstract ethical problems (LW examples: Three Worlds Collide, dust specks, infanticide, recently Moldbug's proposal of abolishing civil rights for the greater good) very personally, generates all kinds of strong emotions about them - yet it has kept me from doing anything ugly so far.

(The most illegal thing I've done in my life during the moments when I 'let myself go' was some petty and outwardly irrational shoplifting in my teenage years; reflecting back upon that, I did it not solely to get an adrenaline rush but also to push my internal equilibrium into a place where this "superego" thing would recieve an alarm and come back online)

What if this internal safety net of mine is founded solely upon #2 and #3?

(* As I've mentioned in some personal anecdotes, - and hell, I don't wish to drone on and on about this, just feeling it's relevant - this part of me has been either very weak or dormant until I watched Evangelion when I was 18. The weird, lingering cathartic sensation and the feeling of psychological change, which felt a little like growing up several years in a week, was the most interesting direct experience in my life so far. However, I've mostly been flinching from consciously trying to push myself towards the admirable ethics of interpersonal relations that I view as the director's key teaching. It's painful enough when it's happening without conscious effort on your part!)