Konkvistador comments on Open Thread, February 15-29, 2012 - Less Wrong

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Comment author: [deleted] 15 February 2012 09:57:48AM *  4 points [-]

I'm not trying to debate you, I'm trying to optimize my life. I want to reproduce with a partner who will stick around for decades, at least. I

Why do you need to marry someone to live with them for decades and raise children? Are millions of people living happily in such arrangements doing something wrong or sub-optimally? If you think different arrangements are better for different people, why do you think you are a particular kind of person?

If you have a compelling case for why my life would be better without marriage, I'd love to hear it.

Can we taboo the word "marriage"?

Is there any legal precedent that gives a never-married man better access to his children than a divorced man?

No. But neither do married men have much better chances of such an outcome.

Comment author: Viliam_Bur 15 February 2012 12:03:39PM 3 points [-]

But neither do married men have much better chances of such an outcome.

There is still a difference between "not much better" and "not better". I do not know the exact number, but if contact with your children is an important part of your utility function, then even increasing the chance by say 5% is worth doing, and could justify the costs of marriage.

(Even if the family law is strongly biased against males, it may still be rational for males to seek marriage.)