I notice I'm rationalizing when after I lose my first defensive argument, I have another lined up and ready to go. If that continues in succession (2 or 3), then I have to stop and rethink my position.
I have a thought in my head that tells me "I'm being irrational", and I try to shut it off, or not care about it. Usually this leads to an increased level of frustration and anger.
When in my mind I already realized I'll have to change my opinion, but I don't want to admit that right now, during the argument.
How do you notice when you're rationalizing? Like, what *actually* tips you off, in real life?
I've listed my cues below; please add your own (one idea per comment), and upvote the comments that you either: (a) use; or (b) will now try using.
I'll be using this list in a trial rationality seminar on Wednesday; it also sounds useful in general.