Quote from the first link:
Typically, the defending of Christianity encompassed by apologetics is aimed at non-Christians, helping them to understand the faith as removing their objections to it.
Bwahahaha. All the Christian apologetics stuff I've read since deconverting has made no sense from the outside. It is very obviously not actually targeted at actual atheists. I find it hilarious that the author thinks that's who it's aimed at. I think it's actually (probably unconsciously) aimed at signalling to Christians that their faith is reasonable.
But the second two posts give good ideas for tacts to take when speaking with people who seem immune to the "cognitive reasons"...
All the Christian apologetics stuff I've read since deconverting...is very obviously not actually targeted at actual atheists.
That isn't necessarily true. I have personal experience with some people who write these sorts of materials, and mostly they just have a really terrible time modeling non-Christians. Some don't even believe that non-Christians exist, really - they seem to think that non-Christians are just people who are resisting what they subconsciously know to be true, out of twisted pride or hopeless despair. I think it's either too optimi...
These are written from the angle that Christians deconverting is bad.
Cognitive reasons
Breaking up because a relationship with God becomes unworkable
Leaving because other Christians aren't empathetic about doubt
At what age do people leave?
It looks as though there may be more articles in the series.