The sense in which you can create another entity arbitrarily like yourself and say, "I identify with this creature based on so-and-so definition" and then have different experiences than the golem no matter how like you it is is the confused concept that I do not think has been dissolved; I am not sure if it a non-fake dissolving of it has ever even started.

I tried responding to this example, but I find the whole example so foreign and confused in some sense that I don't even know how to make enough sense of it to offer a critique or an explanation. Why wouldn't you expect there to exist an entity with different experiences than the golem, and which remembers having identified with the golem? You're not killing it, after all.