do you really think it would have been better for me to say the above than to dodge with "we probably think different things are ok"?
Yes, in part because I thought there was a non-negligible chance that I had done something really bad and then blocked the memory of it. (I mentioned this fear in my first reply to you.) So I really do appreciate the time and effort you took to clearly explain everything (or at least your perspective of it, which is all I can ask for). Of course, as you suspected, I disagree about your interpretation of the events you cited, but I'll respect your desire to not "battle" over it.
If people punish you for what they would advocate as 'the right thing to do' then don't do it.
Huh? Given the upvotes on Tyrrell's comment, it seems that most people (at least among the LW population paying attention to this thread) think the right thing to do is for you to provide a concrete example of what I did wrong, which you hadn't done until now. It seems clear to me that people were punishing you for not doing the right thing.
(I hope you don't mind that I ignored most of your comment. I did so because it was quite long and I'm afraid that readers are probably getting bored with this discussion. If you do mind, or have any specific parts you want me to address, or would like to continue in private, please let me know.)
I'm worried that LW doesn't have enough good contrarians and skeptics, people who disagree with us or like to find fault in every idea they see, but do so in a way that is often right and can change our minds when they are. I fear that when contrarians/skeptics join us but aren't "good enough", we tend to drive them away instead of improving them.
For example, I know a couple of people who occasionally had interesting ideas that were contrary to the local LW consensus, but were (or appeared to be) too confident in their ideas, both good and bad. Both people ended up being repeatedly downvoted and left our community a few months after they arrived. This must have happened more often than I have noticed (partly evidenced by the large number of comments/posts now marked as written by [deleted], sometimes with whole threads written entirely by deleted accounts). I feel that this is a waste that we should try to prevent (or at least think about how we might). So here are some ideas: