I do not have the energy to properly respond to your comment. It is simply too long. Instead, at least for now, I will just respond to this:
Before we go any further, I would like to know if this "counterargument by apple" is something you thought up by yourself, or if you got it from somewhere.
I came up with it myself. It's a good question, because that is not true of most of the arguments I wield.
From Being a Realist (even if you believe in God):
My mother, who doesn't call herself a theist (I think she's agnostic), doesn't even accept realism. She doesn't even agree with this:
That's little more than tautologies here. Yet it elicited an impression of being forced to believe. I know because she told me about the totalitarian dangers from such narrow thinking.
I'm happy to have finally found the root cause of our ongoing disagreement, but now, how can I deal with that? It looks pretty hopeless, but just in case, does someone have a suggestion, or should I just leave it at that? (My ego doesn't like it, but giving up is an option.)
Now I'm relieved to know that in near mode, she's a complete realist. This craziness only shows up in far mode.