From a different context

And I think that another way to put it is that whereas someone compassionate might think “how can I get this person from A to B safely?”, an abuser tends to think “how can I get this person from A to B?

Would it be different and less risky if the reward were M&Ms rather than kisses? If both partners were using reinforcement schemes on each other? The latter seems to have some comic potential, but in a way that isn't quite coming into focus.