I recommend Clarisse Thorne's Confessions of a Pickup Artist Chaser, a substantial overview of the PUA communities.
In an Amazon box on my desk right now :-).
PUA does cover a wide range, but so does, for example, science fiction fandom. Is that one thing, or many things? Fannish fans may look down on Trekkies, and literary types scoff at fannish fans, and all of them scoff at commercial conventions, but really, they do all join up, even if some of them are barely aware of the others' existence. PUA is also many things, but they also join up, and if you try to take some and leave the rest, you'll have contact with the rest anyway through the community, and one way or another will have to take up an attitude about it. And one of the many things that is PUA is this particular thing that I've been talking about. To name it more explicitly, MDFS BDSM, not as bedroom games, but as ideology. There are smoking guns here.
And beyond endocytosis is phagocytosis, the digestion or destruction of the ingested particle.
I agree about MDFS (presumably Male Dominant Female Submissive) as ideology is worse than problematic. It's putting a penny in the fusebox so far as abuse is concerned.
Is there a LessWrongian term for a self-sustaining blind spot?
Interesting point about to what extent fandom is a thing, or more generally, any diverse bunch of human social systems which are sort of under one name are a thing.
Part of the sequence: The Science of Winning at Life
Also see: Basics of Animal Reinforcement, Basics of Human Reinforcement, Physical and Mental Behavior, Wanting vs. Liking Revisited, Approving reinforces low-effort behaviors, Applying Behavioral Psychology on Myself.
Story 1:
On Skype with Eliezer, I said: "Eliezer, you've been unusually pleasant these past three weeks. I'm really happy to see that, and moreover, it increases my probability than an Eliezer-led FAI research team will work. What caused this change, do you think?"
Eliezer replied: "Well, three weeks ago I was working with Anna and Alicorn, and every time I said something nice they fed me an M&M."
Story 2:
I once witnessed a worker who hated keeping a work log because it was only used "against" him. His supervisor would call to say "Why did you spend so much time on that?" or "Why isn't this done yet?" but never "I saw you handled X, great job!" Not surprisingly, he often "forgot" to fill out his worklog.
Ever since I got everyone at the Singularity Institute to keep work logs, I've tried to avoid connections between "concerned" feedback and staff work logs, and instead take time to comment positively on things I see in those work logs.
Story 3:
Chatting with Eliezer, I said, "Eliezer, I get the sense that I've inadvertently caused you to be slightly averse to talking to me. Maybe because we disagree on so many things, or something?"
Eliezer's reply was: "No, it's much simpler. Our conversations usually run longer than our previously set deadline, so whenever I finish talking with you I feel drained and slightly cranky."
Now I finish our conversations on time.
Story 4:
A major Singularity Institute donor recently said to me: "By the way, I decided that every time I donate to the Singularity Institute, I'll set aside an additional 5% for myself to do fun things with, as a motivation to donate."
The power of reinforcement
It's amazing to me how consistently we fail to take advantage of the power of reinforcement.
Maybe it's because behaviorist techniques like reinforcement feel like they don't respect human agency enough. But if you aren't treating humans more like animals than most people are, then you're modeling humans poorly.
You are not an agenty homunculus "corrupted" by heuristics and biases. You just are heuristics and biases. And you respond to reinforcement, because most of your motivation systems still work like the motivation systems of other animals.
A quick reminder of what you learned in high school
What works
Example applications
For additional examples and studies, see The Power of Reinforcement (2004), Don't Shoot the Dog (2006), and Learning and Behavior (2008).
I close with Story 5, from Amy Sutherland:
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My thanks to Erica Edelman for doing much of the research for this post.