Young adult male here.
I've come to the conclusion that I'm nowhere near as attractive or good with girls as I thought I was.
I got my first girlfriend pretty much by accident last year. It was so incredibly amazing that I decided that romantic success was something I needed to become very good at. I spent quite a while reading about it, and thinking about how to be attractive and successful with women. I broke up with my girlfriend as I moved to a small town for two months at the beginning of this year, during which time I practiced approaching girls and flirting with them.
Then I moved to college, and the first attractive, smart girl I saw, I went up to her and got her as a girlfriend pretty much immediately. I thought that I must have been very good and attractive to have gotten such a gorgeous girlfriend so quickly. She broke up with me after a month or two. She immediately moved through two or three boyfriends over the space of a month or two. Meanwhile, I've been looking for a new girlfriend, but haven't had any success.
So I thought I was attractive and good with girls, and then it turned out that I just had a wild stroke of luck. So it goes.
I'm suspicious that I was simply arrogant about how good I was, and if I had thought more dispassionately, I wouldn't have been so wrong in my assessment of my own attractiveness.
Might I suggest that you may be looking at this all wrong- women are more attracted to your confidence than your looks. I suspect that your physical attractiveness is just fine, but the event of being dumped by this smart and beautiful woman hurt your self-confidence, and caused you to seem less attractive to other women afterwards.
The sort of guy who thinks a girl broke up with him because of his unattractiveness is very unattractive to most women, whereas the sort of guy who thinks "it's her loss, I was out of her league anyways" is highly att...
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