3) Talk more about children modeling your own behavior. It is a substantial drain on oneself to regulate constantly.

I worry about this one. It becomes worse if you consider that even if you're constantly regulating yourself, you're being somewhat artificial. I believe that children can easily detect this rigidity. I always knew when my father was trying to be a Father versus when he was just doing what made sense and behaving naturally, and I weighed his words and actions accordingly.