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People who have read this book seem to think it is polite or pleasant to repeatedly use a person's first name in conversation.
Perhaps it was so, in the 1930s. However, I suspect that something has changed since then, namely, the popularity of this book with salespeople. Today, repeatedly using a person's name in conversation makes you sound like an overly ingratiating salesperson who's read Dale Carnegie. Don't do this; it's creepy.
It's easy to overdo, but there's still a ways to slide up the spectrum before it comes off that way. You can be like "Bob, what do you think?", instead of "Hey, what do you think" plus looking at Bob intently. Also works okay while delivering a compliment - "Bob, you're hilarious!".
True enough. Most of the incidents I'm thinking of involved using the person's name as an aside — "Well, what I'd do, Bob, is analyze the process ... you see, Bob, we can leverage the underlying synergies and push the envelope on the business plan, Bob ..."