shokwave comments on Summary of "How to Win Friends and Influence People" - Less Wrong

18 Post author: Cosmos 30 June 2012 08:49PM

You are viewing a comment permalink. View the original post to see all comments and the full post content.

Comments (23)

You are viewing a single comment's thread. Show more comments above.

Comment author: fubarobfusco 01 July 2012 01:07:32PM 17 points [-]

remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language

People love to hear their own name.

People who have read this book seem to think it is polite or pleasant to repeatedly use a person's first name in conversation.

Perhaps it was so, in the 1930s. However, I suspect that something has changed since then, namely, the popularity of this book with salespeople. Today, repeatedly using a person's name in conversation makes you sound like an overly ingratiating salesperson who's read Dale Carnegie. Don't do this; it's creepy.

Comment author: shokwave 02 July 2012 01:13:49PM 0 points [-]

Don't do it repeatedly, sure, but do it at least once in each conversation, I'd expect.