What, you never heard of a euphemism treadmill? Choose any "neutral term" you like as a synonym for "stupid"; there's no kid in the world so "genetically disadvantaged" that they won't realise what you actually meant to say. You do know that 'retarded' was once a perfectly neutral term, right? It literally just means "slower than the others". It acquired its modern connotations because changing the word doesn't change the phenomenon and doesn't change the way people react, either.
Post by fellow LW reader Razib Khan, who many here probably know from the gnxp site or perhaps from his debate with Eliezer.