It seems that Vaniver and pnrjulius have assumed that you're having trouble picking good dates.

Viliam_Bur describes my thought process correctly.

I'm faltering on the first step, finding a woman whom I would be interested in dating. I think part of this is due to what I now recognize to be too many criteria ruling out people who might otherwise be appealing. (I've certainly had people tell me I'm too picky before, but it took a comparison to undergraduate admissions for the underlying nature of the problem to become apparent.)

Worrying about getting picked or accepted is a different step entirely.