wedrifid comments on Useful maxims - Less Wrong

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Comment author: billswift 12 July 2012 06:53:05AM *  3 points [-]
  • I have often regretted my speech, never my silence. - - Publilius Syrus

  • Regret for the things we did can be tempered by time; it is regret for the things we did not do that is inconsolable. - - Sydney Harris

  • My version: You will regret missed opportunities far more than anything you actually do.

Comment author: wedrifid 12 July 2012 02:42:44PM *  0 points [-]

My version: You will regret missed opportunities far more than anything you actually do.

Totally not true. Things I actually do have far more salience. Things I don't actually do I usually don't even remember and if I do they certainly don't drag around much in the way of emotional weight. Perhaps my regret mechanism is different?

Comment author: TheOtherDave 12 July 2012 03:11:52PM 1 point [-]

I expect that people who regret missed opportunities more than actual behavior have higher estimates of the expected value of hypothetical actions than people who don't. That is, they believe the X they didn't do would have been totally awesome, whereas the Xes they actually did do have various flaws and blemishes.

Comment author: handoflixue 18 July 2012 08:25:37PM 0 points [-]

I tend towards inaction, so I tend to regret inaction more than action - there's often been situations where I think I probably could have made a difference if I'd just gotten involved. That said, actions occasionally explode in BIG ways and form very lasting, intense regrets. I seem to handle the latter MUCH better than the former, though, so I'd still rather push towards action over inaction.

But, ideally, I'd like to push for "action, with 5 minutes of sane contemplation beforehand", because I almost never regret that - I often still have "learning experiences", but it's much easier to say to myself "Well, I did the best I could with the information I had at the time, and now I'll have a better model in the future".