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As far as I know, there's not pickup literature for the folk dance scene.
Yes, in a general way, I find confidence and social competence attractive in any environment. But at least consciously, my strategy was to look for nerdy boys who weren't overconfident - because desperate boys would value me more. Devotion alone doesn't make for a good relationship, so the trick was to find one who was both devoted and interesting. (And a folk dancer.)
I think it is fair to say looking for desperation is an unusual dating strategy for young women (though if desperation isn't a turn-off for you, clearly a winning one).
Hitting on desperate boys(/girls) is an unusual strategy by definition...
(Nitpick: This is not technically by definition.)
By the definition of desperate including "not frequently hit on"?