I'm going to assume that you'll probably ignore the above advice because it's your relationship with your father, not the financial dependency (if any), that matters. In that case, start with framsey's last piece of advice. Move on to the rest of it. Then, if you are still reading a book "he's having me read," I recommend choosing a book or article that you're "having him read," if you can find one that seems worthwhile. Fair's fair.