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Awesomely summarized, so much so that I don't know what else to say, except to perhaps offer this complementary anecdote.
Yesterday, I was giving a workshop on what I jokingly call "The Jedi Mind Trick" -- really the set of principles that makes monoidealism techniques (such as "count to 10 and do it") either work or not work. Towards the end, a woman in the group was having some difficulty applying it, and I offered to walk through an example with her.
She picked the task of organizing some files, and I explained to her what to say and picture in her mind, and asked, "What comes up in your mind right now?"
And she said, "well, I'm on a phone call, I can't organize them right now." And I said "Right, that's standard objection #1 - "I'm doing something else". So now do it again..." [I repeated the instructions]. "What comes to mind?"
She says, "Well, it's that it'll be time to do it later".
"Standard objection #2: it's not time right now, or I don't have enough time. Great. We're moving right along. Do it again. What comes to mind?"
"Well, now I'm starting to see more of what I'd actually be doing if I were doing it, the visualization is getting a lot clearer."
"Terrific, do it again. Now, don't try to actually do the task, just pay attention to what you're seeing and feeling, and you may begin to notice some of your muscles beginning to respond, like they're trying to actually do some of the things you're picturing, like starting to twitch..."
And she burst out laughing, because, she said, her legs had already started twitching and she was feeling like, "well, the files are right over there we could just go and get started..."
Had she given up at standard objection #1 or #2, she wouldn't have learned the technique or gotten the result. But it's not the content of the objection that matters, it's that ANY objection that stops you from actually trying something useful, means you fail. You lose. You are not being a smart, rational skeptic, you're being a dumbass loser.
In the workshop, I explained how our own objections and doubts are also doing the Jedi Mind Trick... but on US. "It's not time now..." they say, and like a hypnotized stormtrooper we nod and agree, "It's not time now." And it doesn't matter if those doubts are saying, "It's not time now" or "It's not peer-reviewed" -- because you still lose, either way.
However, if you simply ignore those doubts and objections, and continue what you're doing, they cannot stop you. If the objection you think is real, is in fact real, well, then you've only lost a little time by trying. But if you believe an objection that isn't real, then you've lost much, much more than that.
Much of the time, the primary function of a (good) personal coach or teacher -- whether in pickup, personal development, or even business and marketing! -- is simply to drag someone (kicking and screaming, if necessary) past their objections into actually doing something the teacher or coach already knows will work.
And when that happens, what the student usually finds is that it isn't really as hard as they thought it would be, or that, yes, that crazy mumbo-jumbo actually works, no matter how irrational it might have sounded before they had any personal point of reference.
The woman on the call only needed about two minutes, to try a technique four times in a row and get a result. If she'd been doing it on her own, she might have given up after only one try. And a lot of folks on LW would likely not have tried even that once!
On LW, I mostly bide with polite patience those people who talk about the stuff I teach as if it's a matter of variation from person to person as to whether stuff works, or that things sometimes work and sometimes not, or whatever, blah blah fudge factor nonsense they individually prefer. That's all well and good here, because those people are not my clients.
But if I were to accept that sort of bullshit from one of my clients, then I would have failed them. It's all very well and good for the client to come to me believing that his or her problems are special and unique and that, in all the world, they are the worst person ever at doing something. But if they leave me still thinking that, then I have not done my job.
My job is to say, fuck that bullshit. Do this. No, not that, this. Good. Do it again. Again. That's better. Now do this.
Dunno about rationality, but ISTM that's how a dojo is actually supposed to work. If the master sat there listening to people's inane theories about how they need to punch differently than everybody else, or their insistence that they really need to understand a complete theory of combat, complete with statistical validation against a control group, before they can even raise a single fist in practice, that master would have failed their students AND their Art.
Just as EY fails his students and his art by the public positions he has taken on his weight and akrasia. To fail at solving those problems is fine. To excuse his failure to even try is not, even by the rules of his own art.
(And remember, "I don't have time" is just standard objection #2.)
So, you still need to know what's likely to be useful. You can waste a lot of time trying stuff that just isn't going to work.
(And, just in case it wasn't clear - I am a long (long long) way from the belief that Eliezer is "a dumbass loser" (which you don't quite say, but it's a confusion I'd like to avoid).)
I'd also add:
there's heaps of stuff that's 'useful'. what matters is how useful it is - especially in relation to things that might be more useful. we all have limited time and (other) resources. it's a cost/benefit ratio. the good is the enemy of the great, and all that.
often it's unclear how useful something really is, you have to take this into account when you judge whether it's worth your while. and you also have to make a judgement about whether it's even worth your while to try evaluating it... coz there's always heaps and heaps of options and you can't spend your time evaluating them all.
Either you have something better to do with your time or you don't.
If you don't have something better, then it's not a waste of time.
If you do have something better to do, but you're spending your time bitching about it instead of working on it, then trying even ludicrous things is still a better use of your time.
IMO, the real waste of time is when people spend all their time making up explanations to excuse their self-created limitations.