DanArmak comments on How to deal with someone in a LessWrong meeting being creepy - Less Wrong

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Comment author: lucidian 08 September 2012 02:38:04AM 11 points [-]

I agree with you that the socially awkward among us could reap large benefits by implementing these "anti-creeper measures". That's because we live in a society where such "creepy" behaviors are deemed unacceptable, and in order to fit into a society, one has to follow that society's norms.

However, I think many people on this thread have a problem with these norms existing, and that's what they're upset about; they'd like to combat these social norms instead of acquiescing to them. And I can certainly see why a rationalist might be opposed to these norms. The idea of "creepiness" seems to be a relatively new social phenomenon, and since it emerged, people have gotten much more conscious about avoiding being "creepy". Most of the discussion in the comments has been about unwanted physical contact, but another part of creepiness is unwanted verbal communication. Social norms seem to cater increasingly to the oversensitive and easily offended; instead of asking oversensitive people to lighten up a bit, we often go out of our way to avoid saying things that will offend people. And of course, any social norm that prevents people from communicating their beliefs and opinions honestly is contrary to the goals of the rationalist movement. It may then be of interest to rationalists to fight this increase in sensitivity by encouraging open discussion, and discouraging taking offense.

Of course, to actually change social norms, we would first have to infiltrate society, which requires gaining basic competence in social skills, even ones we disagree with.

Comment author: DanArmak 08 September 2012 06:35:10PM *  4 points [-]

Social norms seem to cater increasingly to the oversensitive and easily offended; instead of asking oversensitive people to lighten up a bit, we often go out of our way to avoid saying things that will offend people.

You're just asserting that your preferred level of sensitivity is better than other people's higher preferred level. You call them "oversensitive and easily offended", which assigns your preferences an apparently objective or otherwise special status, but you don't give a reason for this. What reason does anyone else have to go along with your preferences instead of their own?

Comment author: Eugine_Nier 08 September 2012 08:56:42PM 1 point [-]

What reason does lucidian have to go with their preference level instead of his own.

Comment author: DanArmak 08 September 2012 09:08:00PM 1 point [-]

I'm not saying he has any such reason. But neither does anyone else have a reason to go along with his preferences.

Comment author: Eugine_Nier 08 September 2012 09:57:46PM 1 point [-]

I'm not saying he has any such reason. But neither does anyone else have a reason to go along with his preferences.

Well, the OP was about the first and not the second.