buybuydandavis comments on How to deal with someone in a LessWrong meeting being creepy - Less Wrong

16 Post author: Douglas_Reay 09 September 2012 04:41AM

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Comment author: buybuydandavis 10 September 2012 07:39:09AM 8 points [-]

If someone tells you "don't do that, it's creepy and it's upsetting me" then don't do that.

Don't do that to them, and reevaluate tactics in general after updating for this encounter.

Comment author: [deleted] 10 September 2012 04:14:22PM 1 point [-]

Right.

Comment author: buybuydandavis 10 September 2012 05:51:11PM 4 points [-]

I'll add that you should also reevaluate how much you should be interacting with that person at all, and not just changing some particular behavior.

Someone who finds you upsetting is just not your natural market in the first place, and even if that limited data sample is an unfortunate fluke, or even if you agree that your behavior was inappropriate, it has happened, so you're now Mr. Creepy to that person. Maybe you can climb your way out of that hole, but you're likely better off spending your time and energy where you're not starting out in a hole. Know when to fold a bad hand.