atorm comments on Open Thread, September 1-15, 2012 - Less Wrong

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Comment author: Epiphany 02 September 2012 12:56:20AM *  2 points [-]

As a female, I wonder what it means that I don't react to behaviors like competing for status, class signaling and spending beyond ones means by being attracted - instead, I have the same feeling I get when people are being immature and stupid. Lol. I have thought about this a lot. I am just not attracted to the ordinary symbols of male power - though I seem to have a few triggers. Height doesn't matter, muscles don't do a thing and money has no effect. The demonstrations of power I do enjoy are when they're able to hold up their end of a debate with me (I keep wishing for someone to win against me), or when they're doing something really, really intellectually difficult. Those things, I do respond to. Fluff? No.

I have to wonder if other women who are as intellectual as I am are the same.

Comment author: atorm 02 September 2012 03:28:52AM *  1 point [-]

Your description of being attracted to intellect in men gave me the urge to find a way to debate you. Since this would probably count as competing for status, do you think you would find it attractive in person (assuming I actually could keep up with you)?

EDIT: I'm in a relationship and not seeking another: I'm just curious about your response to men trying to attract you with intellectual signalling.