Both of your comments seem to consider only the extremes of "talk politely with a smile" and something in the space between black nationalism and actually killing people who disagree with you

No, I was just pointing out that the same argument applies to both violence and impoliteness. Making an analogy between X and Y does not mean that one thinks that X and Y are the same in other respects.

(also how can the truth be confrontational? maybe we're using the word 'confrontational' in different senses (or, god forbid, using the word 'truth' in different senses) but it seems like only agents or utterances can be confrontational.)