That's cool, glad I had something useful to say (and it's nice to know we weren't just talking at cross purposes but were actually getting somewhere!)
It is, however, quite frustrating to realize, in retrospect, that I had already gone through this chain of reasoning at least once, and then forgot it completely :(
With much help from crazy88, I'm still developing my Decision Theory FAQ. Here's the current section on Decision Theory and "Winning". I feel pretty uncertain about it, so I'm posting it here for feedback. (In the FAQ, CDT and EDT and TDT and Newcomblike problems have already been explained.)