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Is there any hard evidence on this, or is it just the usual scuttlebutt?
That statement was based on the various accounts of expat life in Asia that I'd read online, such as:
http://www.vagabondish.com/female-foreign-japan/
http://www.speakingofchina.com/china-articles/foreign-women-chinese-boyfriend-chinese-husband/#.UI1vlq5ZjxE
http://blog.expatsisterhood.com/2011/11/09/single-women-in-hong-kong-stream-of-consciousness/
http://www.girlschase.com/content/dating-china#ixzz2AcNEouhM
http://www.chinadaily.com.cn/china/2006-11/11/content_730390.htm
Hm. I was hoping for additional statistics for my hafu essay, but I guess some anecdotes are good too.
I knew a female Chinese language student who dated a Chinese guy here in Shanghai. I also saw a white girl who married a rural Chinese guy on TV once.
Aside from those 2 examples, it has always been either 1) couples who came together or 2) white guy who gets a Chinese girlfriend.
My perception (which I think a lot of Western guys who come to China share) is that Chinese women make better partners because they aren't as spoiled & demanding as Western women on average. In other words, why marry a woman who doesn't even know how to cook when you could marry a woman who will share all of the responsibilities with you?
This is changing FAST, especially in big cities like Shanghai. Shanghaineese women have a terrible reputation, not only among expats but also among Chinese.
They're not worried about Chinese women trying manipulate them for a visa?
Maybe some are, but that seems more like something a politician would worry about. Yeah it would be tragic if you found out your wife never really loved you & was just playing along the whole time, but that could happen even without the visa. The visa is issued by the government, not the husband, so he doesn't lose much (maybe the application fees & so forth, presuming he pays for them).
I know three guys married to Chinese girls and one in a long term relationship. In more than six months in Shanghai I can recall seeing only one obvious couple where it was a Chinese (looking) guy and a Western girl. Some women understandably get bitter here. Stepping off the plane is like aging ten years and gaining twenty pounds.
That's been my experience in China - I can remember meeting only one instance of a western girl with a Chinese guy, but it seems that over half western guys had Chinese girlfriends. I don't know if expat men actually prefer dating local women, since the vast majority of girls there are local.
But then my experience has been slightly different, as I spent more time in student circles than in working expat circles.