I feel that you are unpacking some of the statements in the quote incorrectly.

A "male person" here refers to the set of authors that Eliezer_Yudkowsky has read. The vast majority of these authors are cisgendered and do not suffer from any form of gender identity disorder, nor do they otherwise bend gender norms.

Statements made about said "male persons" do not reflect you because you are outside the set of (presumably cisgendered and non-GID suffering) male authors that Eliezer_Yudkowsky has read.

One of the side effects of bending gender norms is that generalizations about gender don't usually apply to you. In any case, it seemed Eliezer_Yudkowsky was not making a claim, but telling his personal experience (which again, has no bearing on you since you presumably haven't met him)

Regarding your other question, there is no reason that you need to necessarily put yourself in the masculine or feminine category. What makes a "whole and real person" has absolutely nothing to do with gender.

Lesswrong might be poorly equipped to address these types of questions. Have you explored any of the LGBT/transgender subreddits on reddit?

I think this graphic is pretty helpful in conceptualizing gender and sexuality constructs, if it helps. http://itspronouncedmetrosexual.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/03/Genderbread-2.1.jpg