Interesting - I can't relate to that that much, but I notice people report different experiences and have different assumptions about parents, I wonder which is more common ... I guess this calls for a poll!

So how much do you think this describes your childhood?

My family is horribly fucked up

I spent most of my childhood in excruciating suffering of some kind

f I tried to tell my parents about it they called me mean names

(I agree with your conclusion, by the way!)