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At some point I started feeling like my bf is more interested in telling me things than having a conversation with me. So I started trying to flag the instances where he did it and the instances where he didn't, and it kinda felt like it matched my feeling since I had several more examples of one than the other. But I didn't document then carefully or anything, so how do I know I'm not falling into the confirmation bias trap? Or is this just the wrong way to handle something that started out as a ... feeling?
This seems tricky. What is (I would guess) important about your situation is that you want to have more conversations with him. So hey, if you want to have more conversations, do things that will result in that happening.
If your number of conversations changes noticeably and that feeling doesn't go away, or you get the same feeling about something else instead, then yeah, maybe the root cause is something else. (It's like when I'm procrastinating and I feel like I really want to visit website X, and then I feel I really want to read book Y, but the feeling is really just "procrastination-feeling" from not wanting to start chore Z.)