To the extent that you're a slave to duty, it's because you choose to be one.
... This sentence confuses me. Does the expression "I don't know any other way to live" sound familiar to you?
People are quite predictable. In fact, you probably already know the predictive models, but are choosing instead to use your normative models to predict the world, or just as bad and much the same, modeling other people as if they have the same motivations that you do.
I've tried that. It just gets me depressed, and doesn't improve my predictive abilities at all; rather than make wrong predictions, I find myself unable to make any predictions.
I haven't delved much into the PUA literature, but my impression is that it focuses more on acquiring and controlling women than enjoying them once you have them. I don't think that's pragmatism, I think it's missing the point.
It's for this kind of insight that I frequent this community. Well-said. I knew something was bugging me. In trope terms, tt's basically like wanting to take over the world, and not knowing what to do with it once you actually do win.
Would it really be so horrible if women are not what you think they "should" be? Would they be so horrible? A lot of things are not what you think women should be. Is a chair horrible for not being your ideal woman? A car? A spoon? You find uses for all of them, don't you?
I can't follow your chain of reasoning... It's not a matter of them being women, that's secondary to my needs. I wouldn't mind a guy if being together with that person helped me fulfil my values (which don't include "your romantic partner has to be of the opposite sex").
The world is a wonderful place, and unwomen are among the most wonderful things in it. The world is a wonderful place, once you decide to live in it, instead of bemoaning that it isn't what you think it should be.
How can the world be wonderful if it isn't what I think it ought to be? The only way around that is to redefine my understanding of what it ought to be.
Otherwise, thank you for your post, this is being very interesting for me.
Does the expression "I don't know any other way to live" sound familiar to you?
Should it? If this is an allusion, it's going right past me.
I can't follow your chain of reasoning...
I wasn't trying to get at your sexual orientation with "unwomen". That was meant to refer to "women who are unlike your ideal of what a woman and partner should be". I think unwomen can be perfectly wonderful, and in fact, more wonderful than your ideal women. And even if they weren't, unwomen have the merit of actually existing.
...It's basic
This is my first attempt at starting a casual conversation on LW where people don't have to worry about winning or losing points, and can just relax and have social fun together.
So, Big Bang Theory. That series got me wondering. It seems to be about "geeks", and not the basement-dwelling variety either; they're highly successful and accomplished professionals, each in their own field. One of them has been an astronaut, even. And yet, everything they ever accomplish amounts to absolutely nothing in terms of social recognition or even in terms of personal happiness. And the thing is, it doesn't even get better for their "normal" counterparts, who are just as miserable and petty.
Consider, then; how would being rationalists would affect the characters on this show? The writing of the show relies a lot on laughing at people rather than with them; would rationalist characters subvert that? And how would that rationalist outlook express itself given their personalities? (After all, notice how amazingly different from each other Yudkowsky, Hanson, and Alicorn are, just to name a few; they emphasize rather different things, and take different approaches to both truth-testing and problem-solving).
Note: this discussion does not need to be about rationalism. It can be a casual, normal discussion about the series. Relax and enjoy yourselves.
But the reason I brought up that series is that its characters are excellent examples of high intelligence hampered by immense irrationality. The apex of this is represented by Dr. Sheldon Cooper, who is, essentially, a complete fundamentalist over every single thing in his life; he applies this attitude to everything, right down to people's favorite flavor of pudding: Raj is "axiomatically wrong" to prefer tapioca, because the best pudding is chocolate. Period. This attitude makes him a far, far worse scientist than he thinks, as he refuses to even consider any criticism of his methods or results.