army1987 comments on LW Women- Minimizing the Inferential Distance - Less Wrong

58 [deleted] 25 November 2012 11:33PM

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Comment author: [deleted] 25 November 2012 10:11:39PM *  2 points [-]

Arguably, this is a problem with society's views on sexuality ("slut shaming"), rather than the fact that informing someone about their sexual encounters with that person's mother is inherently offensive.

I'd rather there existed no such thing as slut shaming in my society, but in most situations I would still be pissed off if someone had sex with you while in a committed monogamous relationship with someone else without their knowledge and consent, in particular if said someone else is someone I know e.g. my father.

Comment author: SaidAchmiz 25 November 2012 11:52:40PM 3 points [-]

I'm having a bit of trouble parsing your comment. Are you saying that if Bob had sex with your mother, you'd be pissed off at Bob, because this would mean that your mother has cheated on your father with Bob...? Fair enough, I suppose, though it seems to me that Bob in this situation isn't the one who's broken any promises/agreements; in general the blame for cheating seems like it should be assigned to the cheater, not the person he/she is cheating with.

... but this thread is probably fast approaching an entirely too tangential state relative to the main post.

Comment author: [deleted] 26 November 2012 11:42:22AM *  4 points [-]

in general the blame for cheating seems like it should be assigned to the cheater, not the person he/she is cheating with.

Yes, it'd be my mother I'd mainly be pissed off at; but if Bob was aware she was married (and in that hypothetical he definitely is aware she's my mother -- though he might have found that out later)...

... but this thread is probably fast approaching an entirely too tangential state relative to the main post.

Agreed.