therufs comments on LW Women- Minimizing the Inferential Distance - Less Wrong
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These seem pretty significantly different to me. Also, why are we neverminding consideration of what the daughter wants?
Not quite what I meant; sorry for being unclear. I meant, the most likely case is that the words weren't very thoughtfully spoken in general, but I wanted to address the sentiment that might have been behind them if they were designed for effect.
I'll speak for myself, here. I wouldn't verbally or physically force a daughter of mine (I have two or three) to get married, but I will present it as normative because I believe she will be happier if she does so (after careful selection of a mate, etc.). So I could easily see myself saying "Wow, I'm glad to see you learning to cook, that's something your husband will really appreciate one day." If I have a son, I'll likely expect him to pick up some cooking skills as well, but I don't think that those skills are as attractive to a potential wife as vice versa.