I gave my ex much input and feedback for his works, but others will never know. Meanwhile, he trivialized and hindered my work. He recently admitted to purposely discouraging me from going to college or doing well while I was there. I suspected as much, like when he guilt-tripped me the morning I had to cram for an AP exam in high school, BSing that my not celebrating his birthday with him meant that I didn't love him. This was when he was in grad school -- he knew what he was doing. He wanted to keep me for himself, and often said so. That thinking--a woman serving one men--was a justification for him to rape, physically assault, psychologically manipulate, and limit me (such as when or what I was allowed to write).

It looks like A went through some significant physical and emotional abuse early and often, probably left with a PTSD or other emotional scars. I wonder how common this is, vs a more subtle version, like the academic workplace discrimination stats linked in the OP.

Due to how our bodies work, a person tends to not respect a partner who is focused on pleasing just that person.

Bodies? Minds? I don't understand what the submitter means here. If this is about status signaling, then it probably isn't gender-specific, though I can see how women might "dote" over their partners more than the other way around.

B: almost all men watch porn, though few compulsively, and the tastes vary wildly. I am not sure how often guys cannot tell a porn fantasy from reality, but probably no more often than playing violent videogames translates into real-life violence. I'm sure there have been plenty of research on the subject.

I can totally see the workplace creepiness case B describes, and it's unfortunate that she was not equipped to articulate it at the time. I have no idea how this creepiness plays out in "East Asian cultures".

In general, I expected more of LW-relevant feedback, given the overrepresentation of young males here, probably coloring the discussion (likely inadvertently) with content and style females may find grating.