Men who succeed in convincing others to serve the goals those men choose are what we call social dominance, and that this is actually attractive to women is equally reasonable a priori.

Yeah, that's actually a much better way to put it., except that's not just for men.

And you can use unethical methods (coercion, violence) to achieve that...but that's not the only way it can be achieved.

I guess by appending the word "social" to the word dominance, I took it to mean specifically the "charismatic" sort of dominance, when you get people to follow your interests because they like you or think that you can help them succeed (rather than out of fear of violence or social consequences)