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There is something to be said about being confident enough that you don't follow the social script. Like seemingly most things in dating, the strategy doesn't matter very much - it's all about the way you portray yourself.
After a friend recommended giving women my number, I have completely stopped asking for theirs. With n=~10, only one has declined saying that it was my responsiblity to take hers. The others all seemed delighted that I was different, and willing to give them more of the direct power whether or not they'd like to see me again.
My general advice in this department would to be to completely forget that there is a script and simply experiment to see what works for you.
How many called you?
Three.
Edit: Interestingly, the woman who insisted I take her number was positively disintersted when I did call.
Seems like she was interested in rejecting you, and created for herself an opportunity to do it twice.
Different people optimize for different things.
Or she was trying to Enforce a Rule, regardless of whether she wanted Paamayim's company. Some people just aren't consequentialists.