Could one be grateful to the other cars involved in the situation? I usually feel gratitude towards myself (for being skilled), my teacher (I'm still new, and she taught me well), people who contributed to me being calm in a crisis, and/or the other cars who managed to avoid the situation.
You can also be grateful for a huge nebulous social system that teaches driving and ensures reasonably consistent behavior, which makes this all MUCH easier than if everyone was just improvising (i.e. rules of the road both legal and social).
When I was learning to drive I had a few close calls, and I got very aware of what I was grateful for - it was important to focus on WHY I wasn't dead, so I could make sure I continued not dying :)
Could one be grateful to the other cars involved in the situation?
Absolutely. What I mean is the feeling of gratitude in the situations where there is no feasible target, like having a pregnancy test turn out negative after a contraception accident.
Well, I used to think that I do not believe in anything supernatural that affects what happens to me, but I'm wondering if maybe I actually do alieve in it. For example, a few days ago I had a close call in traffic, and when a collision I fully expected to happen just a second prior did not transpire, I mentally thanked... whom? I definitely had a clear feeling of gratitude for escaping, and I don't normally mean it literally when I say "Thank God!". So, who or what did I feel thankful to? I've never been religious, and I got rid of most of my superstitions over the years, but apparently there is still something there, and I do not know how to react to this knowledge.
What would be the proper reaction after a close call? Shrug and say "got lucky this time, should be more cautious next time"? What about when waiting for a diagnosis, what does sort-of-praying "please, please, let everything be OK" say about one's true beliefs? I know that I am much better at not blaming the world when something bad happens to me by chance than at not thanking the world when something good happens. Should it not be symmetric? Which part of a normally non-religious person wakes up and asserts itself in a crisis situation out of their control? Should it be embraced, suppressed, worked on?