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It a misleading claim. Studying of how parents influence their kids generally conclude that "being" of the parent is more important than what they specifically do with the kids.
From the article:
The author of the article doesn't seem to understand that there such a thing as good listening. If a girl tell you about some problem in her life it can be more effective to empathize with the girl than to go and solve the problem.
If something says "It's what's on the inside that matters!" a much better response would be ask: What makes you think that your inside is so much better than the inside of other people?
Could you explain this? Or link to info about such studies? (Or both?)
Yep.
I'm rather curious how parents can "be" something to children without doing, since it's supposed children don't know their parents before their first contact (after birth, I mean).
I think I have heard of such studies, but the conclusion is different.
Who the parents are matter more than things like which school do the kids go, or in which neighborhood they live, etc.
But in my view, that's only because being something (let's say, a sportsman), will makes you do things that influence your kids to pursue a similar path
I didn't said that they aren't doing anything. I said that identifying specific behaviors doesn't make a good predictor. Characteristics like high emotional intelligence are better predictors.
Working on increased emotional intelligence and higher self esteem would be work that changes "who you are".
Taking steps to raise their own emotional intelligence might have a much higher effect that taking children to the museum to teach them about