If I'm doing something analytically wrong here, please feel free to give specifics. Crocker's Rule: I promise not to withdraw or lash out simply because I'm defensive about your criticism - I'm saying this to you, not the world.
PS. I don't understand the relevance of the quoted text.
PPS. "SJ-oriented callout culture" --> SJ = ?
SJ = abbreviation for "social justice."
The discussion here appears to be talking about "privilege" in a way that looks, from the outside of the conversation, like the use of the term "privilege" by both participants is based on attempting to reverse-engineer its theoretical structure from the way it's used online by social justice activists.
The idea of "privilege", as an academic notion within critical theories, does not boil down to "the thing that when you see it, you should call it out." Exploring and ...
As Multiheaded added, "Personal is Political" stuff like gender relations, etc also may belong here.