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Not an advice, just wanted to mention that if you are so worried offline, so to speak, some of it is bound to eventually leak through into the together time, and few people like it when the other person comes across as desperate or clingy. Also note that in most cases people get dumped in person, or sometimes over the phone, not by email/text/facebook status update, so the most dangerous time is probably the first few minutes after you meet up. Hope none of that happens to you.
If he was anxious and likely to experience a self-fulfilling-prophecy-failure before, he's probably twice as anxious now...
Yes, the possibility of coming off as clingy is exactly why I haven't discussed this directly with her in person yet.
I suspect that a smart guy like you can figure out ways to communicate regarding this issue in ways that don't come off as clingy. The fact that you are worried about the possibility of "clingy" is some evidence that you aren't at unusual risk of coming off that way (unless there are additional facts in your personal history that suggest otherwise).
In short, something that you come up with after actually spending time (> 5 min) thinking about it is likely to be worth the effort of communicating.