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What value of “very generally” are you using? IME there are ways of touching people which would likely make (say) a American freak the hell out but would likely be barely noticed by (say) an Italian.
EDIT: “IME” is nowhere near an unbiased sample of all human experience, so it is probably much more complicated than that. OTOH there's a female American LWer who described how uncomfortable she was when someone had kissed her on the cheeks, but I have a very hard time imagining that happening with a female Italian. (EDIT 2: To clarify, in informal contexts in Italy, kissing a woman on the cheeks is roughly analogous to shaking a man's hand -- I could imagine a woman not wanting her cheeks kissed or a man not wanting his hand shaken, but it'd most likely be someone they'd already have some reason to dislike.)
Generally enough in any given person's social context that they should have a decent but not infallible sense of what's acceptable. Obviously there's a great degree of cultural variation.
Would you consider that an acceptable justification for the treatment of Dalits? What about for a culture that permitted non-consensual sex?
See Yvain's parable of the salmon and Vladimir's reply.
If there are people who are genuinely not make uncomfortable by suddenly having sex with them, and you know this, then sure. (That such people could exist on a culture-wide level I find tremendously implausible, but LCPW and all that.) Of course what we usually mean when we talk about "cultures that permit non-consensual sex" is ones where a husband can rape his wife all he likes, or just rape culture more generally, which is obviously a different axis of variation than how much personal space people tend to have.