Eugine_Nier comments on The more privileged lover - Less Wrong

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Comment author: Eugine_Nier 06 March 2013 03:33:40AM *  0 points [-]

Most members of society just don't talk about what is and is not acceptable behavior in close cases. Being specific what is and is not acceptable helps reduce bad behavior and hopefully prevents bad actors from asserting that society is willing to tolerate their behavior.

It also makes the underlying Schelling point more likely to slip.

Edit: another way to say this is: Being specific means that a bad actor who finds a loophole can now sight chapter and verse for why his behavior is in fact acceptable.

Comment author: TimS 06 March 2013 03:54:52AM *  -1 points [-]

Schelling points are not values. At best, the concept is useful only for figuring out how to mediate conflicting values.

Chesterton's Fence is a valuable argument, but repeating citing it to me is a barely veiled accusation that I haven't thought things through (and if Chesterton's Fence isn't what your second link is intended to argue, then I am simply confused).

I'm opening to addressing specific problems that you identify, but you haven't actually identified any problems with talking about what the social expectations already are.

Moreover, the particular moral positions I'm asserting (e.g. non-consensual touching is not generally allowed in a functioning society have been supported by the overwhelming majority of moral thinkers for longer than you and I have been alive. We might suspect those thinkers were insincere, but it is no defense to say "Don't listen to me, I was being a hypocrite."

Comment author: Eugine_Nier 06 March 2013 04:43:07AM 1 point [-]

Chesterton's Fence is a valuable argument, but repeating citing it to me is a barely veiled accusation that I haven't thought things through (and if Chesterton's Fence isn't what your second link is intended to argue, then I am simply confused).

See my edit.

Moreover, the particular moral positions I'm asserting (e.g. non-consensual touching is not generally allowed in a functioning society have been supported by the overwhelming majority of moral thinkers for longer than you and I have been alive.

I suppose this is technically true for certain values of "non-consensual", specifically you have to assume there is a presumption of implicit consent to certain types of touching in many situations. In some cases this definition is extremely stretched. In any case there is a lot of room to slip one way or the other on what kind of touching one is presumed to have consented to.