The reasons I listed were what I deemed the actual motivations of people. I don't share those motivations much. I probably should busy myself with social signaling more, but I don't.

I've gone out of my way to limit my criticism of the OP, and you think I want a blank check? OP is not a rapist, but he sure was acting entitled. Further, the particular way he was acting entitled gives aid to bad actors.

That's going our of your way not to criticize? You shouldn't be so shy, so we can get to the point sooner.

I'd say you're flatly wrong. He has shown no indication of believing he is entitled to having his way in the relationship, and just objects to the assumption that she is entitled to having her way in the relationship. Neither of them is entitled to a relationship with the other, to have sex with the other, or go bowling with the other. He asks, rather reasonably in my opinion, in the context of their relationship:

Why is wanting sex worse than not wanting sex?

He mistakes it for a religious issue, but it's really the privileging of not wanting sex over wanting it in a relationship, and the privileging of what a woman wants over what a man wants in a relationship.